COME ON IN, THE POND WATER’S WARM
Welcome to the blog!
I'm Carrie Smolen LMFT, a Los Angeles-based therapist specializing in perfectionism, body struggles (including eating disorders), and the particular exhaustion of trying to hold it all together while you’re quietly freaking out. Duck Syndrome is where I write about all of it.
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ABOUT DUCK SYNDROMEThe term "duck syndrome" was first coined at Stanford University to describe students who were struggling while feeling pressure to appear calm, cool, and collected — much like a duck gliding smoothly on the surface while paddling frantically underneath. In school or not, that image captures something so many of us with anxious and perfectionistic brains experience: not quite imposter syndrome, just the feeling that everyone else has it figured out, and that we'd better act like we do too. And because vulnerability is scary, most of us end up carrying that feeling completely alone.
Duck Syndrome, the blog and the newsletter, exists for anyone who is tired of paddling alone.
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